My husband and I have been looking into embryo adoption! At first I was supper excited about it, thinking that this could be a great way to one: help families who don't want to kill there embryos give them a chance for life, and secondly: to help make our dream of having a family come true! Sounds great right? Well it would be if there wasn't so much red tape already.
No its not at bad as traditional adoption, yet. There are three ways to adopt.
1st.) You can go through an adoption agency. The good thing about this is that it is very organized and all the logistics are handled for you. The bad things are that the cost associated with an agency is quit substantial. Ranging between 4,000.00 and 10,000.00 dollars. You also are required to pass a very rigorous back round check including, but not limited to:
-Credit Check
-Backround Check
-Medical Check
-Home Study
-Required Counseling
and many more obstacles.
The wait time can also be from 1 to 3 years depending on the agency.
2nd.) You can go through a local clinic. The main problem I have had with this option is finding a clinic that does embryo donation. If you are lucky enough to find one that has a donation program, then almost always you will find a large waiting period on the end of a list. One of the great things about this option is that the cost is reduced to about 2,500.00 to 3,500.00 dollars. Also you can rest assured that all the medical testing to make sure it is safe is in place.
3rd.) Independent Embryo Donation. This is a great option because it is the most cost efficient. You are able to develop a relationship with the donor if so desired. The down side is that it is risky. There are not rules or regulations in place so you have to hope that the people donating are as morally sound as you are. Or the other way around. It is faster in some cases, if you are able to find a family willing to donate. There is not cost to the donors which is also a great aspect. Cost of just the transfer is around 3,000.00 dollars so it is relatively inexpensive too.
My husband and I are currently seeking out this last option due to the fact that there are not any clinics I know of that have donation programs in Missouri. If you know of any please feel free to comment! We are also considering a sperm donor just because of the wait that associated with embryo adoption. Embryo Adoption can be a great thing!
Waiting is hard . . . but I know that some day our dream of having a family will happen! My sister in law who ended up using a surrogate always tells me, "Its not a matter of if, but when." I'm sure along with the rest of you I am hoping my "when" comes sooner than later.
I haven't had any comments yet so if you don't mind leaving me some so I know that you are out there!
Sometimes when feel like my prayer are bouncing off the ceiling I sing this scripture and if comforts me!
Psalm 5
1. Give ear to my words, O LORD, consider my sighing. 2. Listen to my cry for help, my King and my God, for to you I pray. 3. In the morning, O LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation.
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