What a neat o idea!

Don't worry it will happen. Just relax it will happen. Stop trying and it will happen. Have you thought about adoption? I heard (insert name here) adopted and then got pregnant on their own. If you go on vacation you will get pregnant. Maybe your not supposed to have children. Have you tried praying about it?


If you at any point in your life have been trying to conceive without success then I am sure that some wonderful family member, friend,  or coworkers have freely given these great pieces of advice. If you want to tick off an infertile just use one of these great phrases! I have come to realize that if those caring people have not been through infertility personally then they cannot understand. But, that doesn't mean that they can't be there for you. I know in my own life that I just want someone to be sad with me for a little while. Not fix it, but help me endure it so that I'm not alone. We need someone to cry with us.


Romans 12:15
Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. 


Last night I received news that one of my good friends was pregnant with #2. Well as you can guess I went straight into an emotional mess! Sobbing in the shower so no one could hear me and a 2hr walk around my city hopping to get lost, but I finally ended up in an empty park on a squeaky swing. Hoping that in my sobbing and praying God would divinely show up as homeless person and give some wonderful word of wisdom or hope. Something that I could hold on to. Something to get me through, but nothing. No word, no homeless angle, no sign in clouds, no dreams, just silence. But in the silence there was peace. Undeserved, unwarranted, almost unwanted peace. I wanted to be upset, I wanted to be discouraged, I wanted to cry poor me and have the whole town listening, but peace. I didn't ask for peace. God gave my heart what it needed  . . . a break. So in the quietness I called my sister and asked if she would like to get some ice cream and we did.


Right now I am fighting with one of my best friends and why? Because I need someone to be mad at. I need to point my finger at someone and say you don't care and you don't understand. So don't mistake not understanding for not caring and lets give our friends a chance to be there for us. Even if they need a little coaching.